to The Help Me Network. I am excited that you have found your way to our community.
To become a World leading community in helping others learn how to take control of their lives by following our continuous improvement systems. By filling the knowledge and skills gaps our society fails to provide us and by bringing like minded people together to teach, support, problem solve and collaborate we will influence our communities to make positive changes.
Our Way of Thinking
Everyone needs help, it does not matter who you are, what you do, who you know, how much you know or how much money you have. We all have moments in our lives where situations or decisions arise where we are not prepared and help is needed.
Help comes in many forms, such as needing information or recommendations to make a decision, learning how to complete a task, earning or receiving money or finding someone with skills you do not possess.
It can be as simple as someone opening a door for you because your hands are full or running an errand for you.
Unfortunately, most of us do not fully understand how to receive and give help properly.
How often have you used or heard the following phrase, “You are or this is not helping (me)!”
As a society, we are good at the extremes of help.
We either provide social assistance of some nature where we just give people things or we pretend to help, which at best is a short term solution. In most cases, we hope the person or problem will just go away.
On the other end of the spectrum we ignore, look down upon or outright ridicule people who need or ask for help. In some cases, it is rationalized because of the people we encounter who always have their hand out looking for help without putting any real effort into solving their problems or improving their own situation.
The ironic aspect of these two extremes is that they are directly linked and often fuel each other.
The concept of The Help Me Network is to provide you with information, training and resources, so you can pursue perfection in your life by making constant and continuous improvements on a daily basis.
By learning how to make small improvements in how you think and in everything you do you will create massive, positive changes in your life and ultimately influence and help the people around you.
My name is Braden and I have over 30 years of experience as an entrepreneur and an executive manager, who has worked in many industries and with many types of people.
Over my career I have come to realize our society structure, values and how we educate and treat people in general is sadly broken.
We have far too many people that get lost in our system, who struggle through life because we have failed them as a society.
Most people spend a lot time feeling guilty, mistrusting others, being depressed, and not feeling appreciated and successful in their lives. Everyone has these feelings no matter how successful or which societal class they find themselves within and it is downright detrimental to our well-being.
Now I know this may not be a big revelation to you, but it’s very important to understand why people feel this way (what is the root cause?) and why do we think these feelings are acceptable in our lives.
I for one believe these complex societal and human issues and problems become normal day to day living because no one has put a priority on finding solutions and educating people.
Our Common Problem
On the surface, our lives are complicated. We have to think about money and bills, our home, family, friends, careers, retirement, vacation, our health, taxes, entertainment, learning and material possessions.
We have all kinds of things to do and not enough time to do them all the way we would like. We spend less time thinking, planning and actually solving our problems.
As our free time lessens and our problems increase we become stressed, frustrated and depressed. In some cases we completely ignore our issues or we try and solve it by spending money we do not have on things we think will make us feel better or might solve the problem.
When things get complicated we get inefficient and we spend more and more time on things that produce little value in our lives.
We lose our focus on what we are trying to achieve and we have no idea if we are making progress or not.
Help Me Values – Step 1
My philosophy about solving complex problems and situations is to stop and think. Take time to reflect on the past, the current situation and to re-affirm where I want to go and what I want the future to look like.
You will never get what you want without a plan and without revising your plan you will never know what you truly want.
Things change, life changes, you change and what you want today you probably don’t want a year from now. So, it’s impossible to find happiness unless you have a plan to get it and keep it.
The Help Me Network will give you the key components to customize your own life plan and the tools and capabilities to follow it and amend it as life changes.
A great place to start today making a personal improvement is by thinking about your own personal core values and being truly honest with yourself.
Step 1 – Start by asking yourself these questions…
- Who are you and what do you truly believe in; what are your core values?
- How often do you demonstrate these values?
- Do you have exceptions where you do not follow your values?
- How often do you re-affirm your commitment to these values?
If you have never thought about this before or you have not thought about this for quite some time it is very helpful to start a list of values important to you. Think about them and ask yourself why is this important to me.
Once you have a list of no more than five values start using them to guide your thoughts, decisions and actions every day. The best place to start helping yourself make positive changes in your life is by creating a strong, mental foundation of quality values.
Here are my top 5 core values that I try to live by every day. I have not mastered all five, but I continually think about them with every thought, decision and action. I am in pursuit of their perfection.
- Integrity – honesty, honor, principles, sincerity
- Trust – confidence, belief, certainty
- Value – usefulness, benefit, help, worth
- Communication – conveyance, disclosure, connection
- Improvement – advance, upgrade, rise, boost, development
My simple approach to helping myself and others
Once you have identified your core values and spent some time making them a part of your daily life you can move on to step 2 of the process.
Become more aware of everything you think, do and say and take notes.
- How often do you think negative thoughts?
- What things “bug” you on a daily basis?
- How do the people around you think, act and treat you?
The reason you want to make a list of the number and nature of these occurrences is so you can create a benchmark for your current situation. Once you begin to make small changes in your life you can then measure the success of your efforts.
The goal is to make small improvements every single day in every aspect of your life.
All of these small improvements will ultimately lead to massive change.
My objective is to lead you through your improvement journey through The Help Me Network.
One More Help Me Suggestion
Another great tip I used to help create a solid foundation for thinking and behaving is to relax and accept that positive change and building an exciting and wonderful future will take some time.
Start right now making changes to help yourself and keep these two things in mind:
- Cut yourself some “slack” – when I become frustrated or stressed out about things going on in my life that are less than desirable I stop and reflect. I remind myself that I was not taught how to effectively communicate with people, how to manage conflict, how to plan my career, how to manage and invest money and how to parent my children. All of these crucial life skills I had to learn on my own through trial and error and as long as I am truly making a concentrated effort to improve it’s okay. I will be able to manage these areas of my life perfectly. I just need to keep learning and making small improvements every day.
- Cut others some “slack” when I became aware that almost everyone else around me has never been taught these life skills either I became more compassionate towards other people. Backed by my purpose to help others, to continuously improve and to be more relaxed I started experiencing more and more positive interactions in my life. I also found myself being less frustrated and angry with other people.
Other Rules of Engagement with People
Don’t be so quick to judge and mistrust people. Don’t instantly “blow up” other people’s ideas, opinions and comments.
Instead, take some time to listen more carefully and ask more questions, so you can understand people more clearly before you give feedback or share your thoughts and opinions.
Interact and communicate with people using your core values. Keep practicing and improving your communications with people and learn from every interaction by becoming a better listener and observer.
It’s not hard to do, but it takes practice and commitment to get good at making other people feel special and appreciated. In return, you will feel more capable, confident and valued.
Unfortunately, it has taken me over 40 years to figure these things out and I am still learning and trying to perfect the way I think and behave.
Everything is a process and every process can be improved.
My commitment to you
It’s one thing to try to make these improvements in your life, it’s another to do it on your own. Having someone to support you along the way makes all the difference in the World.
You will still have tough moments; doubt, fear and anxiety will always lurk in the shadows until you can exterminate them forever and I am here to help you navigate those instances.
I am not a Psychologist and I do not have any letters of designation behind my name and title. I cannot guarantee you success in your life, but I can absolutely help you make improvements, I can help you think and act differently and I am here to support you as needed.
If you take the time to become a free member of this community and either send me a message or make comments on this website I will give you at least equal time of mine.
I will share everything from ideas, products, services, programs, strategies and reviews over time that I think will be helpful for you. I also expect many like-minded people will connect with each other and offer their support.
AND as a member, if you have questions, ideas or problems and you would like my opinion or recommendation I will definitely respond to your inquiry.
You will also be notified by email about new articles, announcements and opportunities.
If you want to share your ideas and experiences as a contributor to this community you can also send me a message as a member.
Click here to become a Free Member of The Help Me Network.
What I ask in return
Besides becoming a free member I encourage you to try to make one small improvement in your life every single day or at least spend a few minutes reflecting or thinking about an improvement you could make.
Start with your core values and my cutting “slack” suggestions.
A lot of the articles I will be posting to the community will be ideas on how to make and do small improvements that will help you feel a little better than you did before.
Over time this will have a dramatic, positive effect on your life and the people you share it with.
By focusing on small, personal improvements you will start to feel a little better each day and you will get rid of something that bugs you regularly.
Once you feel better, you will feel more energetic.
With more energy and equipped with a stronger and more observant mind your life path will become more clear to you. You will start to see things differently and develop plans that make sense for your life.
You will become more excited about your future and with this excitement comes hope.
Hope will sustain your energy and help you to continue making small improvements in all aspects of your life.
After you start seeing how powerful you are becoming you will gain even more confidence and belief that you are in control of your life and the people around you will definitely take notice and become more interested in you and what you are doing.
NOTE: Chances are, when you read each of the steps of our continuous improvement plan or one of articles you will find out that you are already doing a great job at a particular element of the plan. That is fantastic and you can still help! Share the article with someone who could use the help or tell us about your experience or tips you may have on the subject by making a comment.
Take some time to work on Steps 1 and 2, once you feel comfortable and ready move on to Step 3 – “How to Change My Life Forever.”
The future of The Help Me Network
As I mentioned before, my plan is to grow this community into a movement of positive change in people’s lives and ultimately our communities. As people start to value and respect one another at a new and improved level and as they make small improvements over time; great things will happen.
It’s also important to understand that significant widespread change needs a business model. A model that combines the social elements of helping people and a revenue component to grow.
Ultimately, I would like to commit full time to this venture, I would like to be able to advertise, I would like to pay members for their time and contributions and I would like to implement other functions and features to The Help Me Network.
As a result, I have integrated some potential revenue making components through affiliate sales. I am also in the process of completing a book that will be sold on this website. The book will be the foundation for training, sharing and hopefully inspiring you and many other people to become part of what could be the biggest collaborative initiative for societal change.
Other revenue producing features will be added in the future as well, so we can accelerate our growth and awareness.
It is my belief that we can create so much good in the World by connecting people, who are like-minded, who follow respectful and collaborative rules of engagement and who pool their knowledge, skills and resources to help others to make daily improvements.
REMEMBER: Steps 1 and 2 of our strategic plan help build the foundation for change. Skipping steps or not spending enough time on each step will limit your overall ability to support the entire structure of capabilities we will be building together over time.
To helping us,
Founder – The Help Me Network